13^th Sunday in Ordinary Time

June 28, 2020

Matthew 10:37-42

In many cultures like Indonesia, Filipino, and Chinese, to honor our parents is of prime importance. In Indonesia, to highlight the value, a folklore “Malin Kudang” was taught even in elementary. In essence, Malin not only failed to respect his parents, but also deliberately ignored them. Thus, his mother cursed him into a stone. it is just unforgivable to disrespect someone who gave your life and raise you to life.

Respecting the parents is also one of the highest values for the Jewish people. What is remarkable is that they are not honoring their parents because it is something natural to do, but because it is a divine commandment. Going back to the Decalogue, to honor our mothers and fathers is, in fact, the fourth commandment, highest among the commandments regulating the human community. Even the Hebrew word used is “kabad”, which can mean “to honor” but may mean also to glorify. Thus, God instructed the Israelites and Christians as well not simply honor but to glorify our parents.

However, today’s Gospel tells us that Jesus demands even something unthinkable, that if we love our parents more than Jesus, we are not worthy of Him. Peter, Andrew, and John and the rest of the disciples have left their stable jobs and the comfort of their home to follow Jesus, but Jesus even lays down a more radical requirement. To follow Him is not just physically be present with Him, but the disciples have to give their total love for Jesus above everyone else. Who is this Jesus who requires His followers the love beyond our parents?

The answer is not that complicated. Jesus deserves all the love and loyalty we have simply because He is God. In Book of Deuteronomy [6:4-5], Moses instructed Israelites how to love and honor God, “Hear, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord alone! Therefore, you shall love the Lord, your God, with your whole heart, and with your whole being, and with your whole strength.”

And how did Jesus know that His disciples love Him more than anybody else, and not merely lips service? As proof of their love, Jesus asks them to show this: “take up your cross and follow me!” In Jesus’ time, the cross is a most gruesome torture and execution method and is designed to prolong the agony. In essence, Jesus tells His disciples if they really love Him above all else, they need to be ready to endure prolonged suffering and even die a horrible death for Him. When we face Jesus, the choice is: all for Jesus or none at all.

Does it mean we shall stop loving our parents and children? Does it mean we no longer do good works for others and just stay in prayers for as long as we can? Not at all. Loving God above other things places us in the right perspective and orients us to the right destination. Now we may love others including our family for the love of God. It means that when we love them, we bring them closer to God. Now we may do our works and service for God, not for the sake of gaining personal benefits. When we work hard and we are blessed with success, the first thing we remember is to give praise to the Lord. And, if we encounter roadblocks in our lives or if we need to endure suffering, we are not losing hope because this is also an opportunity to love God even more.

Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP