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Jesus, Not Our Ordinary King

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Palm Sunday of the Lord’s Passion

April 13, 2025

Luke 19:28-40 and Luke 22:14–23:56

Palm Sunday is one of the most unique liturgical celebrations in the Church because it features two Gospel readings: Jesus’ triumphal entry into Jerusalem (Luke 19:28-40) and the Passion of Christ (Luke 22:14–23:56). These readings are not accidental; the Church intentionally pairs them to reveal their profound connection. But what is this relationship?

The first Gospel presents Jesus entering Jerusalem, the city of King David and his successors. His disciples follow closely while some residents welcome Him, proclaiming Him as king. Yet the Gospel clarifies that Jesus is no ordinary earthly ruler. He isn’t a militarily powerful king riding a stallion, but a humble sovereign on a donkey. He comes in the name of the Lord – not through royal lineage, political systems, or deception. He reigns not over a single nation, but over all creation, as even “the stones will cry out” to declare His kingship.

The second Gospel, the Passion narrative, further reveals Christ’s kingship. He doesn’t rule through violence but embraces it and bring it to an end on the cross. His kingdom operates not through terror but through law of love, sacrificing Himself so His people might be redeemed from sin and then live.

As we enter Holy Week, we’re invited to examine our identity as God’s people. Do we love our King or fear Him? If we truly love Him, we must learn to love as He loved. For two thousand years, countless martyrs have followed Christ’s example to the point of death. Even today in the 21st century, Christians face persecution: Nigerian priests abducted and murdered; Syrian Christian communities attacked and displaced; growing anti-Christian hostility in Israel.

Many of us live where faith can be expressed freely, yet these environments present different dangers – materialism, complacency, or cowardice in witnessing to Christ. We’re tempted to prioritize self over God, to love ourselves rather than Jesus

We consider St. Catherine of Siena’s example. During her time, the pope was residing in Avignon, France rather than Rome since he was afraid of dealing with people who opposed him there. However, rather than becoming a leader in faith and example of moral, the pope involved himself more in politics. She courageously went to Avignon and confronted Gregory XI, urging his return, “If you die in Rome, you die a martyr – but if you stay here, you die a coward.” Her actions flowed from radical love for Christ the King.

If Jesus is our King, how then shall we follow Him?

Guide Questions:

Do we truly love Jesus as our King? How does our love for Christ manifest practically? Are we prepared to profess our faith in challenging environments? Would we sacrifice for others out of love for Jesus? Are we ready to endure hardship as Christians?

Love and Betrayal

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5th Sunday of Lent [C]

April 6, 2025

John 8:1-11

The story of the woman caught in adultery is one that frequently appears during Lent, especially in Year C. What lessons can we draw from this story?

At first glance, the narrative seems straightforward, yet it carries profound lessons worth unpacking. While we often associate it with God’s mercy and forgiveness—which is certainly true— there is more to it than what meets the eyes. In Scripture, adultery is not merely a grave sin; it also serves as a metaphor for idolatry, the gravest of spiritual betrayals. The prophet Hosea, for instance, was called to marry an unfaithful woman to symbolize God’s covenant with wayward Israel (Hosea 1–3). Ezekiel condemns Jerusalem and Samaria as “adulterous sisters” who chased after foreign gods (Ezekiel 23:30). Similarly, in the New Testament, James rebukes those who prioritize worldly “friendship” over God, calling them “adulterers.” (James 4:4).

This connection between adultery and idolatry reveals a deeper truth about our relationship with God. He did not create us as slaves driven by fear or as mindless robots bound by programming. Instead, He made us free and capable of love, desiring a relationship with us; one built on devotion rather than obligation. In mystical terms, God invites us to become His spiritual lovers, meaning we must love Him above all else and serve Him not out of fear, but out of deep, sincere love.

One of the earliest saints to speak of this “spiritual marriage” was St. Catherine of Siena. As young as six years old, she declared herself the bride of Christ, refusing earthly marriage to devote herself entirely to Jesus. At the age of 20, she experienced the spiritual marriage with Christ. And her profound love united her deeply to Christ to the point of sharing His wounds. She received stigmata around five years before she passed away.

The Church constantly teaches that we, collectively, are the Bride of Christ. Just as Eve was formed from Adam’s side while he slept, the Church was born from the pierced side of Jesus on the cross. Through baptism, we are reborn as members of His Church—His beloved. Through the Eucharist, we are nourished and sustained by His Body and Blood. Thus, our love for God must surpass all others, and even our love for family and friends should flow from our love for Christ.

This is why preferring anything above God constitutes spiritual adultery. The story of Jesus forgiving the adulterous woman illustrates both God’s unwavering love and mercy and our own unfaithfulness. Lent calls us back to our first and truest love—the only love that brings lasting happiness.

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Reflection Questions:

How do we relate to God—as a servant obeying a master, or as a lover responding to Love Himself? Do we love God above all else? Do we love others for the sake of God? What unhealthy attachments to the world do we need to examine? How can we return to my true love—God alone?

The Prodigal Father

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4th Sunday of Lent [C]

March 30, 2025

Luke 15:1-3, 11-32

The story of the Prodigal Son is one of the most beautiful parables in the Gospel. Not only is it masterfully told, but it also teaches profound lessons—especially about parenthood.

Raising children is no easy task. Each child has a unique personality, and each can bring both joy and heartache. Many of us struggle to know how to be good parents. Some rely on the wisdom passed down from their own parents and elders, drawing from memories of how they were raised. Others turn to social media or self-proclaimed parenting “experts” for guidance. A few make the effort to consult real specialists—paediatricians, child psychologists, and educators. Yet, in the end, our children are not carbon copies of us. There will always be surprises beyond our control. All we can do is pray and hope they that will grow into their best selves.

The father in the parable offers us a powerful example. Despite doing his best to raise his two sons, he faced painful relationships with both. The younger son demanded his inheritance, severed ties, and left to live a sinful life. Imagine the father’s heartbreak—his son treated him as disposable, not as a parent. The elder son was no better. When his brother returned, he refused to enter the house and join the celebration. He never called his father “Father,” referring to his brother as “your son” instead of “my brother.” He saw himself not as a son but as a servant, even saying, “Look! All these years I’ve worked for you like a slave!” Again, the father’s heart must have ached—he had raised a son, not a slave.

Yet, despite these struggles, the father never gave up. He never stopped hoping for his younger son’s return. When the prodigal son came home, humbled and expecting to be a servant, the father is the first one who saw his son, ran after him, and embraced him. He called him “my son” and not servant. When the first son refused to go home, the father sought him and pleaded with him, calling him “my son” and not servant, explaining that everything he has, belongs also to his son.

Many of us are blessed with children but endure strained relationships. Despite our best efforts, our children may not turn out as we hoped. Some, like the younger son, reject our love or wish us gone. Others, like the elder son, see us as taskmasters, not parents. Yet the parable calls us to love perseveringly, and till the end, because that is true parenthood. That is holiness.

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Reflection Questions:

How do we raise our children well? What is the state of our relationship with them? Do we face difficulties in relating to our children? How do we respond to these challenges? Do we rely on God’s grace to guide us?

Transfiguration and the Tent

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2nd Sunday of Lent [C]

March 16, 2025

Luke 9:28b-36

The second Sunday of Lent presents the story of the Transfiguration, where Jesus is described as shining, literally becoming light itself. Two of the greatest figures from the Old Testament, Moses and Elijah, appeared and conversed with Jesus. Then, Peter made an interesting offer to Jesus: a tent. But why did Peter suddenly offer a tent?

The obvious reason might be that Jesus and His disciples had planned to pray, and they may have needed to stay on the mountain for a longer period. It’s possible that Jesus had instructed the three disciples to bring tents. Therefore, Peter’s offer should not surprise us, as they were likely already prepared with tents. The only difference is that the tents were now meant for Moses and Elijah, rather than for the disciples. But is there a deeper meaning to this offer beyond simply extending their stay on the mountain?

A tent is a temporary and portable dwelling, typically used when traveling. In ancient times, people travelled for various reasons, including trade, military campaigns, and pilgrimages. During these journeys, they did not have buses, cars, or airplanes. Land travel was mostly done on foot, and travellers often needed to rest, especially when far from nearby towns or villages. In such circumstances, tents were a necessity.

In the Old Testament, the Israelites journeyed from Egypt to Canaan and spent approximately forty years in the desert, living most of their lives in tents. However, among all the tents of Israel, there was one special tent at the center of the encampment: the tent where the Lord dwelt among His people. This was traditionally called the “Tabernacle.” The word “tabernacle” itself comes from Latin, meaning “tent,” and in Hebrew, the tent of the Lord is called מִשְׁכָּן  (miškān), which literally means “dwelling place” and is derived from the root שָׁכַן  (šākan), meaning “to dwell.” From this root, we get the word Shekinah (שְׁכִינָה), meaning “the Dwelling”—God’s presence among His people. God chose to dwell in the tent so that He could walk among His people, and the Israelites could come close to their God.

Now, returning to the Gospel, it seems that Jesus declined Peter’s offer of a tent, but in reality, He only postponed it. Jesus knew that one day, He would indeed dwell in a tent among His people. In the Catholic Church, the Lord walks with His people until the end of time as He is present in the Eucharist. We also have a “tent,” the Tabernacle, where the risen and transfigured Lord makes His temporary dwelling among us, allowing us to visit and be close to Him. However, we understand that this tent is only a temporary dwelling; His true dwelling is in heaven.

We must also remember that we are pilgrims in this world, pitching our tents here temporarily. We may have beautiful and spacious tents, but they are still just tents. Our stay here on earth is temporary, and we must not treat this temporary dwelling as our final, permanent home. Our true home is with the Lord in heaven.

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Guide Questions:

Do we realize that we are just pilgrims on this earth? How do we prepare ourselves to reach our true home? Do we visit the Lord in His tent? How do we receive the Lord into our “tents”?

Words from the Hearts

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8th Sunday in Ordinary Time [C]

March 2, 2025

Luke 6:39-45

The Book of Sirach tells us, “Praise no one before he speaks, for it is then that people are tested (27:7).” This means that to truly know someone, we must listen to their words, as their words reveal much about who they are. Indeed, our words unveil many aspects of our lives. From the choice of our words, others can gauge our knowledge and intellectual capacity. The way we speak can also reveal some of our dominant characteristics. Furthermore, our words express our beliefs and what we hold dear.

However, expressing words is just one side of the story, for words can also be used to deceive and manipulate. We can use words to lead people to believe something about us that might not be true. We can say things that hide parts of ourselves. We can utter words that are pleasing and encouraging, with the aim of gaining favor from others.

Ancient people long recognized the power of words and developed an art called “rhetoric” (literally, the art of speaking or the art of persuasion). Aristotle wrote his classic manual on rhetoric around 350 BC, while teaching at his school, the Lyceum, in ancient Athens. His manual became the standard for many orators who sought to convince, persuade, and influence people. Aristotle identified three elements of rhetoric: ethos (credibility of the speaker), logos (logical argument), and pathos (emotional appeal to the audience). A good orator must incorporate all three elements in their speech.

Unfortunately, many people are easily persuaded by pathos alone, since we enjoy hearing dramatic, even bombastic words—those that are pleasing to us. We tend to avoid painful or unpleasing words. Naturally, we dislike people who speak critically about us, regardless of their ethos, logos, or even veritas (truth). At times, we follow and even idolize someone because we are “hypnotized” by their words, assuming they are credible, truthful, and even “saintly.” We may then refuse to acknowledge evidence that their words are not truthful or even harmful for us.

In today’s Gospel, Jesus teaches us that “from the fullness of the heart, the mouth speaks (Luk 6:45).” What is in our hearts is reflected in our words. If our hearts are filled with evil, our words may sound sweet, but they can be manipulative and self-serving. If our hearts are filled with genuine love for others, our words may not always be easy to hear, but they will be for the authentic good of those we love. Jesus’ words to His disciples are not always sweet and often difficult to accept. Phrases like “love your enemies (Luk 6:27),” “Do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not give false testimony, honor your father and mother (Mat 19:18),” “sell your goods and give to the poor (Luk 18:22),” and “unless you eat my body, you will not have life (John 6:53)” are hard to digest, but they are meant for our ultimate good—our salvation.

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Guiding Questions:

What is in our hearts? Are our thoughts good, pure, and noble, or are they selfish, malicious, and evil? How do we use our words? Do we use words that encourage or discourage? Do we build people up or tear them down? Do we follow Jesus, even when His words are difficult?

Love and Power

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7th Sunday in Ordinary Time [C]

February 23, 2025

Luke 6:27-38

Jesus teaches us to “love our enemies,” but what does this mean? Does it mean we must endure their evil deeds without fighting back? Does it mean we must always give in to their demands? Does it mean we should forget what they do to us? Thankfully, the Church provides us with an answer through our first reading: the story of David and Saul.

Saul, the first king of Israel, initially supported David as one of his commanders, especially after David defeated Goliath. However, as time passed and after various wars, David became more successful than Saul and even gained greater fame. Feeling threatened by David’s growing popularity, Saul declared him his enemy and sought to kill him. David was forced to flee, and with his supporters, he waged guerrilla warfare against Saul. One day, when Saul and his army were in pursuit of David, they camped for the night. David noticed Saul’s camp nearby, and when the guards were asleep, David quietly entered Saul’s tent and had the opportunity to kill him. David’s companion even urged him to take action, knowing that Saul had caused much suffering for him and his men. Moreover, if Saul were killed, David could claim the throne and become the new king of Israel. Yet, David refused to kill Saul, recognizing that Saul was still God’s anointed king. He knew it would be cowardly to deal the final blow. Ultimately, God blessed David for showing mercy to his enemy, Saul.

The story of David and Saul illustrates how we can love our enemies. To love does not simply mean to like someone, but rather to choose to do good to them. Yes, we may feel hatred toward our enemies, but we can still decide to love them by not harming them. From David’s story, we also learn that loving our enemies presupposes that we have power over them. In David’s case, he had the power to end Saul’s life. To love someone, including our enemy, requires power.

This truth about love and power is crucial. It is not true love if we merely condone the wrongdoing of our enemies because we lack the power to defend ourselves. I often tell spouses who are victims of domestic abuse that simply giving in to the demands of an abusive partner is not true love, but a misunderstanding of Jesus’ commandment to love our enemies.

Loving others, even our enemies, is for the strong and powerful. Only through the exercise of power and authority can we do something that is genuinely good. Without power, we may deceive ourselves into thinking that we love our enemies, when in reality, we are just giving in to their wrongdoing.

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Guide questions:

How do we understand Jesus’ commandment to love our enemies? Who are our enemies? Are we willing to love our enemies? How can we love our enemies? Are we sure that we love our enemies, or are we simply giving in to their wrongdoings?

God’s Holiness

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5th Sunday in Ordinary Time [C]
February 9, 2025
Isaiah 6:1-2a, 3-8

In the first reading, we encounter the story of Isaiah, who was called to be God’s prophet. Isaiah saw the heavenly Temple, where the Seraphim, the highest of angels, proclaimed: “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord of hosts!” Through the mouths of the Seraphim, the Bible reveals one of God’s most fundamental characteristics—His holiness. In another passage, God explicitly commands us: “Be holy, for I am holy” (Leviticus 19:2). But what does it mean to be holy? Why is the word repeated three times? And how can we achieve holiness?

In the Bible, the word “holy” (קָדוֹשׁ, read: kadosh) can be understood as something that belongs to God. Holy places, times, objects, and people are those set apart for the Lord. Since they belong to Him, they are separated from things that are not of God. The process of transitioning from the non-holy to the holy is often called consecration or sanctification.

But what does it mean when we say that God is holy? In Scripture, “holy” is the most frequently used word to describe the God of Israel. Often, it is repeated three times, as in Isaiah’s vision. This is a common Semitic way of expressing the superlative—in other words, saying “the holiest.” Holiness, when applied to God, means:

  1. Transcendence – God is completely different from His creation. He is perfect; we are not. He is all-powerful; we are weak. He is all-knowing; we understand only a fraction of reality.
  2. Immanence – Despite His transcendence, God is not distant. He is intimately involved in history, in our lives, and in our daily struggles. He is a God who gives life, cares for us, and loves His creation.
  3. Moral Perfection – God’s holiness also refers to His absolute justice and righteousness. Every action of His is good and just.

When God calls us to be holy as He is holy, He invites us to share in His perfection. But how can we, as imperfect beings, ever reach such a standard? At first glance, this command might seem impossible. And indeed, it is—if we rely solely on our own strength. But with God, nothing is impossible. Holiness is only achievable when we are united with Him and rely on His grace.

It is humanly impossible to love our spouse through sickness, trials, and economic hardship—but God’s grace strengthens us to love until the end. It is humanly impossible to remain faithful to one’s vocation—but with God’s grace, the impossible becomes possible. It is humanly impossible to forgive and do good to those who have hurt us—but God’s grace makes reconciliation and healing attainable.

However, the life of grace is not automatic. We must do our part to allow God’s grace to transform us. This is why it is essential to: Pray faithfully, Read the Bible regularly, Participate in the Eucharist every Sunday with reverence, Go to confession frequently. These practices open our hearts to receive God’s grace, allowing us to grow in holiness. Indeed, holiness is impossible without God, but God also desires that we freely participate in His holiness.

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Reflection Questions
Do we truly desire to live a holy life? Do we freely invite God into our lives? How do we cultivate holiness in our daily routines? Have we experienced God’s grace in our lives? How?

Consecrated

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The Feast of Presentation of the Lord [C]

February 2, 2025

Luke 2:22-40

Today, we are celebrating the Feast of the Presentation, commemorating the biblical event when Mary and Joseph presented the newborn Jesus at the Temple in Jerusalem. But why must Jesus be presented at the Temple in the first place?

Joseph and Mary brought Jesus to the Temple because He was Mary’s firstborn. According to the Law of Moses, all firstborn males, whether human or animal, must be consecrated to the Lord (see Exodus 13:1-2; 11-16). The word “consecrated” here means to be made holy (Hebrew: kados), and to be holy means to belong to the Lord. The most common way to consecrate something is through sacrifice, signifying a transition from the ordinary realm to the divine realm.

Certainly, blood sacrifice was only required for livestock animals, such as sheep or goats. These animals were slaughtered and burned at the altar, signifying their transition from this world to the divine realm. However, not all things had to be killed. In the case of working animals, like donkeys, and firstborn humans, they were brought to the Temple and presented to the priest. Then, the owner or parents were required to redeem their firstborn by offering animals to be sacrificed in their place. To redeem Jesus, Joseph and Mary offered a pair of turtledoves or pigeons, a sacrifice commonly offered by the poor.

Why must the firstborn child be consecrated to the Lord? The Book of Exodus (chapter 12) tells us that, just before the Israelites left Egypt, the tenth plague that killed the Egyptian firstborns took place. The Israelite firstborns were spared because of the Passover sacrifice—the unblemished lamb that was slain, its blood placed on the doorposts, and its flesh roasted and eaten. In this way, the Passover lamb was sacrificed to redeem the firstborn Israelites from death.

What is interesting is that Luke never tells us that Jesus was redeemed. Yes, He was presented, and Mary and Joseph did offer sacrificial animals, but the word “redeem” is absent from the story. It seems that Luke deliberately omits this word to emphasize that Jesus is presented as the true firstborn—the Passover Lamb—who will be sacrificed so that we may be redeemed from sin and death.

As Christians, we no longer follow the ritual of consecrating firstborns as outlined in Exodus 13. The reason is that we are all consecrated, or set apart, for the Lord through our baptism. Through His sacrifice on the cross, Jesus is the Passover Lamb (1 Cor 5:7) who saves us from sin and death and redeems us for God. Now, we belong to the Lord, and as God’s possession, we are holy. This is why St. Paul, in his letters (1 Cor 1:2; Eph 1:1; Phil 1:1), does not refer to the Church’s members as Christians but as the “holy ones” or the “saints.” As people consecrated to God, we are called to live holy lives, for God is holy (Lev 11:44).

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Questions for Reflection:

Are we aware that we have been consecrated to the Lord? What does holiness mean? Do we live as holy people of God? How do we live a holy life in our daily routines? Do we help others grow in holiness? If so, how?

Who is Theophilus?

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3rd Sunday in Ordinary Time [C]

January 26, 2025

Luke 1:1-4; 4:14-21

Luke addressed his Gospel to a man named Theophilus, but who exactly was he? And why did Luke dedicate his Gospel to him?

There are several interesting theories about Theophilus. The most widely accepted theory is that he was a sponsor for Luke in writing his Gospel. Two thousand years ago, producing a book was astronomically expensive. “Paper” was made either from animal skins or from papyrus, a plant that only grew along the Nile River in Egypt. Additionally, Luke had to cover “research costs.” Unlike other evangelists, Luke was not an eyewitness to the events of Jesus’ life. Therefore, to create a historically reliable document, he had to travel and interview eyewitnesses, such as some of the apostles and Mary, Jesus’ mother.

Since there were no printing machines at the time, Luke had to handwrite the text or hire a stenographer or copyist, significantly increasing the cost.

The Gospel of Luke is the longest of the four Gospels (it contains the most words). Luke also wrote the Acts of the Apostles. Together, these two works make up almost one-third of the entire New Testament. It is no wonder that Luke needed financial support from a wealthy individual for his costly project.

Luke addresses Theophilus as “κράτιστος” (kratistos), usually translated as “most excellent.” This title was commonly used to address individuals of high status and rank. Therefore, we can infer that Theophilus was more than capable of supporting Luke in writing the Gospel. But the next question arises: What was Theophilus’ relationship to Jesus? Was he a baptized Christian and a member of the early Church? Or was he just an interested individual who happened to want to learn about Jesus’ life?

If Theophilus was a baptized believer, Luke may have written his Gospel to deepen Theophilus’ knowledge of Jesus. Perhaps Theophilus would use the Gospel to instruct his local Christian community or parish. However, if Theophilus was not yet baptized, the Gospel could have served as a means of evangelization, introducing Christ to him and hopefully leading him and his family to faith.

Another interesting theory is that the name “Theophilus” does not refer to a single individual but rather to all believers. “Theophilus” is derived from two Greek words: “Theos” (meaning “God”) and “Philos” (meaning “friend” or “one who loves as a friend”). Therefore, Theophilus refers to anyone who loves God and desires to have a communion with Him. In this sense, Theophilus represents all Christians throughout the ages who seek a deeper friendship with God as they learn and contemplate on Jesus’ life through Luke’s Gospel. In this way, Luke dedicated his work to all Christians.

In the end, we may never know who Theophilus truly was, and we must wait until we reach heaven to find out. However, from both Luke and Theophilus, we learn that the work of evangelization is extremely difficult. Yet, they also show us that each person can contribute to this divine project. Some offer their talents in writing, some teach, and others provide various forms of support. While everyone can give their time and energy, some are called to preach to large audiences, while others are called to raise their families in faith. Each one of us can be a Theophilus in our own way—someone who loves God and desires for Him to be known by others.

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Guide Questions:

Have we read the entire Gospel of Luke? What is my favorite episode in the Gospel of Luke? And why? What do we do to contribute to the work of evangelization? Do we help bring God closer to others? How?

Jesus and Mary, our Wedding Guests

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Second Sunday in Ordinary Time [C}

January 19, 2025

John 2:1-12

In every wedding, we naturally expect the bridegroom and bride to take center stage. After all, it is their marriage—their happiest moment. However, the story of the wedding at Cana in Galilee offers us a different perspective, one that is often overlooked. What is it?

The wedding at Cana is not primarily about the bride and groom. Surprisingly, their names are never mentioned, and they barely feature in the story. The only time the bridegroom is mentioned is when he is praised for providing an abundant supply of high-quality wine. Instead, this Gospel account focuses on Jesus and His interaction with Mary, His mother. It reveals a deeper truth about Christian marriages that transcends the visible celebration.

The story begins with an introduction: Jesus’ mother, Jesus Himself, and His disciples are invited to the wedding. This detail carries profound significance. Whom do we invite to our wedding? Too often, we focus only on ourselves—preparing the venue, planning ceremonies and programs, selecting food, and choosing the perfect wedding attire. We become preoccupied with pleasing relatives, friends, and guests. But do we make it a priority to invite Jesus and His mother to our wedding?

Many of us might respond, “Yes! We invite Jesus to our wedding because it takes place in the Church!” Yet, is Jesus truly present in our hearts? For some, the wedding is held in a church simply because we happen to be Catholic. Others choose a church wedding for its beauty or prestige. Many attend pre-marriage catechetical courses merely out of obligation, complying with diocesan requirements to secure a church wedding. But how many of us make a conscious and heartfelt effort to truly invite Jesus to our wedding? Do we spiritually prepare for the sacrament through retreats or confession? Do we ask for His grace and guidance as we embark on this sacred journey?

The story of the wedding at Cana also highlights Mary’s unique role. She notices the wine is running out and alerts Jesus to the problem. After a brief exchange, she instructs the servants: “Do whatever He tells you.” This leads to Jesus performing His first miracle. These events reveal Mary’s deep involvement in the wedding. She is not just an ordinary guest; she has access to the inner workings of the household and is aware of the practical needs, such as the shortage of wine. Instead of informing the bridegroom or his family, she turns to Jesus. Out of love for His mother, Jesus uses the simple resources available—water—and transforms them into the finest wine.

This truth is both profound and beautiful. If we want the “best wine” in our marriage, it is essential not only to invite Jesus and Mary to our wedding day but to welcome them into our “kitchen,” and to allow them to be involved in everyday moments of our lives. The Gospel reminds us that the best wine comes from ordinary water. In the same way, the greatest blessings in marriage often arise from simple, unseen acts of love for our spouse and children.

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Valentinus Bayuhadi Ruseno, OP

Reflection Questions

Have we truly invited Jesus and Mary into our marriage, family, and daily lives? Do we recognize Jesus working miracles in our marriages? Have we entrusted our marriage and family to the care of Mary?